Quote:
Originally posted by deltajas
hey guys
Well yes, that is what I meant. I think it's absolutely terrible what she did, and I thought maybe she could have been helped through counseling or professional help. What I meant what that people who do have some type of diturbances for whatever reaons, i 8th grade or whenever, should not be condemed for life if they seek the help they need.
Do you talk to her family? Maybe you could talk to her parents as a concerned neighbor,
I mean if someone is really medically "crazy" people need to realize it's a sickness just like any other sickness.(Sorry Im just concerned bc I am going into the medical field, so I think I have some sensitivity for people who need help)
I hope this helps, and hopefully she can be helped too
|
I completely agree with deltajas. I am a psychology major, so I have a sensitivity to those with problems as well. Chances are if she was getting in trouble with her behaviors, even if they were a slap on the wrist, her family has noticed and given her help. The fact that she is seeking to identify with a group is a good sign that she has received this help. Most people with emotional/behavior disorders isolate themselves.
But if you still do have some reservations about her, maybe just don't write a recommendation at all. A "no-rec" is your right...that's why nationals make this option available. But maybe you feel that you would be compromising too much to make a positive one. I mean, how would you gather the information to make you feel it's ok too? You can't go up to her family and say, "Hey! Is your daughter still nuts?" If you went to the same high school, maybe speaking to some of the teachers there would be a help in making your decision. Maybe take the middle ground and don't write one at all.......