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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
PerfectVerse, I've already addressed your question but I just want to tell you that the insecurity just gets worse (at least this has been my experience). When dating, you know, I thought it was kind of cute, like "oh he must really be into me. He wants all of my attention, etc." Then you'd think that after marriage, it would get better. You are saying to yourself "well hey, I COMMITTED to you dude. I MARRIED YOU. Chill out." But for me it just got worse and much more extreme and there was a control thing going on there as well. And none of it was cute. So, I'm just saying, pay attention to the small signs you are getting now. You said yourself that NOW it is an issue because he is attacking something near and dear to you...but I would guess that the signs of insecurity were there before. I'm just saying don't think that a strong commitment/marriage makes it better because in my experience it didn't.
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To be honest, you've described what has been going on in my relationship for awhile now.
Not to go into too much detail, but I did feel like Mr. Perfect's jealous ways were 'cute'. My exes before him were a lil possessive, but Mr. Perfect took things to a whole new level. I thought he was just protecting me, especially after a few scary incidents that I've had happen to me. I was just glad that he was looking out for me so closely.
But then it started to get really annoying, like I couldn't do anything without him watching me or wanting to be there. And eventually we broke up. But that only lasted about two weeks because we'd talked things through and he finally admitted that he did have a problem and he wanted to work things out.
He still does a few things that I don't care for too much, but he's much better than he's been before.
This has caused me to re-evaluate things. Not just because of my desire to become a member of a sorority, but because I wonder if he's going to act this way with whatever I want to do on my own.