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Originally posted by RedefinedDiva
Soror, I understand what you are saying and I agree somewhat, but in terms of PV, she is NOT a member of any organization, so her time should not be consumed with any sort of activities pertaining to such. Her SO is asking her prior to membership. So, look at it this way: what would you have done had your man suggested that you forgo ever becoming a member of this sisterhood for him? Could you have done that?
I agree that a man needs as much attention as a woman, and would not want to be runner-up to her sorority. Additionally, as life progresses, I (personally) don't know many Sorors that spend more time together. If that's the case, there may be more to the story than community service.... I LOVE my Sorors DEARLY, but we all need a break every now and then. Aside from that, we work, attend school, have other actvities, and have personal relationships to foster, as I would expect young men in fraternities to have the same responsibilties. So, the continual use of "I was with my Sorors/frat" may not be a viable excuse to me.
Ultimately, such a request seems unreasonable and it's a personal choice. I know what I would do....
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Oh most definitely not, because that would be compromising yourself. Like I stated before these are the beginning signs of abuse. If a person asks you to give up your dream or a part of an aspiration, it will only get worse. That would be a warning sign so no I would begin to wean myself away from that SO. I guess my previous advise swayed into being in an organization already because that was my situation, pardon my enthusiasm please ladies. lol
ETA: I agree with Soror SKEE, it will only get worse. And men give us signs of how they will treat us early on. We just have to decide if we will allow it.
