[mulattogyrl]

I've never dated a man in a fraternity, so I have dealt with this a couple of times. I chose my org first. Like FeeFee said, I was interested in my org before you, and my org will be here after you. Toodles! *waving*

Like Skee said, some men are insecure and they do think that your commitment to your org will become more important than your commitment to them. It's jealousy because they're not the center of your attention. They just have to learn to understand or I just have to move on.