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Originally posted by PerfectVerse06
Mr. Perfect and I were talking the other day and the subject of BGLO's came about.
He asked me "If you had to choose between me and becoming a member of XYZ Sorority, which would you choose?"
He then took it upon himself and answer for me, stating that he KNEW I would pick the sorority over him.
I told him that the attractive things about the sorority is that it's a lifetime commitment, that I get out of it exactly what I put into it, and the bond I'd share with countless others who can understand the love that I have for the organization.
He has yet to put a ring on my finger symbolizing a lifetime commitment to me, there's always a chance that the relationship could slide from being 50/50 to 70/30, but as of right now the bond that Mr. Perfect and I share is very special.
In the end I told him I couldn't answer the question, and I thought the fact that he'd ask me to choose was unfair. If he loved me, he'd support my decision and respect the love I have for the organization. I think he believes that I'd up and leave if I became a member, and that isn't the case at all.
But just for fun, I thought I'd pose the question to you all.
Have you ever been given an ultimatum like that ("It's either me or your org?") ?
If you had to choose, which would it be? Your man/woman or your BGLO?
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Ok, here's a slight hijack on the question. What if the issue was not a matter of your boyfriend/husband simply asking you to choose, but rather your circumstances were going to force you to make a choice. For example the following 2 scenarios:
#1 You have been dating and growing closer to your boyfriend for several years. You've been working through the struggle of a long distance relationship, and he has finally popped the question and asked you to marry him. You will now be relocating to his city (just assume that he has the better job, and the plan has always been for you to move there). Meanwhile you have been persuing XYZ org for sometime, and they will be having an intake just after the time that you are scheduled to move. Do you move and start over from scratch in your new city, or do you delay your life with the man of your dreams to join the org?
#2 You are already a very active member of XYZ org (chapter president; Mrs. XYZ) yet your spouse comes home and annouces that he has been offered a significant promotion in an area where there is no active chapter of your org. While you will of course still be a member of your org., for the time being your level of activity is going to fall off sharply. Yet the promotion will mean quite a lot to your spouse as well as your family. Which do you choose? *I think this one is a little easier than the 1st*
Thoughts??? It is still the same issue of choosing the org. versus the mate, but maybe w/more reason (consequences) behind either choice.