UNLDelt, all your posts were awesome.
And there is a BIG difference between "respecting" someone, and their having the same rights and privileges as a fully initiated member. Until you go through that final initiation ceremony - you are NOT a full member. Period. Make things as "PC" as you want, but if our sororities really believed that the minute a girl gets a bid she's equal to the rest of the sisterhood, we would initiate people on bid day instead of waiting 6 weeks.