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Originally posted by ASUADPi
I have to say I think it (getting pregnant before marriage) can be attibuted to how you were raised.
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So as Rudey would have said -- trailer trash?
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A friend of mine, from elementary school, barely graduated high school. She wasn't encouraged to go to college. Her whole goal in life was to get married and have lots of babies. This is because that is what her parents did. They got married young and immediately got pregnant. She knew no better (and now she is reeping the difficulties of her choices).
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That pretty much reinforces my assumption.
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Plus, if you're mom was a teen (or unmarried) and all your sisters (cousins, female relatives) did the same thing, chances are you are going to follow in the same path, because that's all you know. You only know having kids when your young or unmarried.
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That certainly doesn't make it any more right or less selfish. One cannot blame their own choices on the choices their parents made. Does it take a heck of a lot of book smarts to come to the conclusion that babies are hard work, they cost a lot of money, and there's no way in Hades that a baby will ever make a relationship work.
I mentioned above that I'm working while in law school in a firm that handles a lot of these family cases. I could give tell some amazing stories of how these trailer trashers work the DHS system, WIC, TANF, etc. They have these kids so that they can sit on the couch all day eating bon bons paid for by you, me, and daddy's child support payments.
-- and don't screw with their custody situation, or they'll go find the baddest public defender money can't by and put daddy even further into debt because he actually has a j-o-b and can't get a free lawyer.
One such 'lil mama we're working with has been pregnant, or trying to get that way since HS. Has one child with our client, and is working on another. The girl's about 18...
Oh, and her new hubby has been accused (not convicted) of child molestation several times. Her pro-bono lawyers have been filing all kinds of BS because they know dad (who does manual labor for a living and is borrowing a load of money to do this) is going to tap out eventually.
It's pretty sad stuff what these women get away with.