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Originally posted by LouisaMay
"On the other hand, I do not want to be left in limbo.
This happened to me. Things were moving really well, and then...silence. I didn't know if this was a "no" or a "not now" or a "we lost your info." I still don't know, and it has been 2 years! But, I have a great supporter who encouraged me not to give up. I found out that there were officer changes and changes of policy that might have interrupted my process.
I know that you are not being impatient...just excited
Hang in there!
LM
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That happened to me too. After nearly three years of waiting, I found a guardian angel in the group I was hoping to join (who was here on Greek Chat). She was kind enough to make some inquiries on my behalf, and found that someone unintentionally dropped the ball. Had I not been persistant, and had I not met this very kind soul, I would still be in limbo land... not because they didn't want me, but because I had slipped through the cracks.
Someone told you that if you don't hear back from them, that they don't want you. That is NOT necessarily true. I'm proof.
Don't also let anyone tell you that because you don't want to be left out in limbo, that you're not AI material. Also not true. Nobody enjoys the waiting and the not knowing. It can be awful. I know, I went through it, as stated above, for nearly three years.
AI is relatively rare... but some sororities do less than a handful a year-- if any. Those are the groups that sometimes don't follow through-- not because they don't want you, but because they do AI rarely, there's a good chance someone can slip up along the way.
The hardest part is the not knowing. I wish all sororities would send those that they don't feel are right for them a very nice "I'm sorry, but we have to say no" letter. It's kinder than leaving people to hang out there.