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Originally posted by ASUADPi
I don't want to sound mean to the chapter, but if these girls were really your friends (and it really all depends on how long you were a pledge for) I don't understand why they didn't support you? I say this speaking from experience. When I was a freshman a sister in my Alpha class actually had to leave the chapter because her father lost his job. We all were devastated to lose her as a sister.
I mean to me, if they really gave a shit about you, why did they start ignoring you and treating you crappy after you depledged. I don't know you but I believe you when you say you had to depledge due to family issues. Unfortunately that happens because it's life.
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Like Emily said, it all depends on the situation. If she happened to be the 10th girl in two years who (truthfully or untruthfully) blamed something on "family issues," well, like it or not, you are going to pay for those who came before you, even if your intentions are totally honorable.
I think that they are probably hurt that she didn't feel she could confide in them - but sometimes people don't get that different individuals deal with things differently. Some want to talk on & on about it, some clam up. Some want lots of friends around them, some want to deal with it alone. I'm dealing with this situation right now - one of my friends had been having major problems with her boyfriend and didn't tell me, then didn't understand why I didn't get some of the things she's been doing.