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Girl - I remember those days of dating in college. In college, most young men are not really in the same mind-set that we are. Actually, some of us ladies aren't either! But anyway, many young men have the mind-set that they are out to just "kick it" and not really get too serious. If you try and press it on them too much, they'll freak out and turn up MIA for a while. That's when they stop returning phone calls, etc. What you do is give them the same treatment back. DO YOUR THANG! Date other people, stay completely involved in activities and organziations that you were involved with before you all got together. I completely went through the exact same thing at least twice in college. Don't be pressed about it at all.
The same goes for when you do settle down with a man in a committed relationship or a marriage. You must still continue to "do your own thang". (not date other people, but stay involved with your own interests and activities!) I will NEVER forget going home with one of my girlfriends in college and she and I were sitting around talking about how we couldn't wait to get married and be done with all the "dating games". Her mother overheard us and came in and broke it down to us that sometimes the real "games" don't really start until a few years into a marriage. We were corrupted after that!
It's sad to say, but in college, the dating scene is still about playing games. It's when you know how to play the game back that those young men take heed.
Good Luck!
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