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And Aislynn, I TOTALLY agree with you. My response, was only to share MY personal experience that is why I wrote to each his own. My opinion is purely that--- an opinion. Nothing more, nothing less. Being 23 and a mother was not a BAD thing for me. As a matter of fact, it made me more focused and more determined (you see, I DO have a B.S. AND M.A.). I consider myself to STILL be a young, vital, energetic, and ambitious woman who just happens to have two children. I don't know if you have children or not, but I'll tell you from MY experience, NO TIME WILL EVER BE THE RIGHT TIME to have children. It's not what you expect no matter WHAT age. It's nothing that you can PREPARE for (that's the reason that I expressed that the EMOTIONAL and MENTAL aspects of raising children is great). Sure it's commendable, right, and smart to be stable in your career and financially stable, but that's not all there is to having children. It goes MUCH, MUCH deeper than that. It's a depth that ONLY a mother can understand.
You wrote that your mother had you and your siblings at ages 30, 32, and 36, right? Well my question is have you ever asked your mother how she felt about having you guys at those ages (forget about the finances, being married, careers, or even health)? Ask her how she felt about the MENTAL and EMOTIONAL aspects of it. Ask her how she felt about the mere RESPONSIBILITY. I ALSO know of women who had their children around the same ages. Seriously sit down with your mother and ask her about that. You MAY be surprised at her response.
And remember we're just sisterfriends probing each other's minds. My advice or opinion is NOT the law. It's just what I feel.
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