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Originally posted by Cherish777
I depledged, because I was going through a lot of stuff with my family and was so stressed out beyond belief. It had nothing to do with the sorority. I loved those girls and they seemed to feel the same about me, but as soon as I depledged, they began to ignore me or when they saw me anywhere, they'd glare at me and then pretend I wasn't there. I've tried to explain that it was deeply personal issues that caused me to depledge, not them, but I guess they do not want to hear that.
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Not to flame you or anything, but if a girl told me that she had to depledge for family issues... I'd wonder why my sorority had anything to do with that -- we're not her biological family and all we want is to support her through difficult times. Many sororities have seen "family issues" as a reason for a new member's depledging before -- sometimes this was truthful, sometimes it wasn't. Think of it this way: if someone told you she couldn't be friends with you anymore because of family issues, you'd wonder why too.
I'll bet you're honest, so I'll just tell you to give them another chance: they chose you and now you're gone and they're hurt... rightfully or not. They feel rejected. If you want another chance, let them know through your actions that you're really, totally and sincerely wanting to be a member again.
ETA: if you don't want to be a member again and want to possibly join another sorority, like people said before, expect some cuts but I know of lots of success stories were women depledge and join another house where they're very happy. Some houses care, some don't. Even in small towns. Good luck!