I think HM can be looked at in a couple of ways...(depending on the person that made the comment)...I have been called HM by brothers that realized that a sista has high expectations of what her man SHOULD do in a relationship...hence he deems her HM based on her expectations of her mate...
As some sorors have stated HM can be about "doing you" on a regular, there is NOTHING wrong with that, my mother taught me to never leaving the house looking less than SUPREME
as you never know who you will run into...so with that being said, i make sure that i LOOK and FEEL good at all times...because no matter how good you look, if ya feel a mess than that will overpower your outward appearance! If people see that as being HM, then hey, I am what I am!
Just my lil $19.20