But, it is through misinformation and age old ways of "handling" rape that it is allowed to continue.
I don't think anyone here is 'handling' rape. This is a discussion board and we are discussing the issue of rape. The particular case that has come up here, time and time again, (I'm not sure if you're farmiliar with this particular case) is not about trying to surpress the girl. As a matter of fact, I believe most of the people here have said that if she really was raped that they truely are sorry. The fact is, most of the people don't believe her. Her particular case has had some media attention which was loaded down with tons of contradictory information. It's not a matter of trying to surpress her and keep her from talking, it's a matter believing her story.
If we women are to blame for the continued victimization of ourselves-we are plainly stupid.
I didn't read anything about anyone blaming women for victimizing themselves.
we tell ourselves a lot of lies to get through it-even that we have forgive our rapists, etc., and have gone on. No rape victim "just goes on" without a lot of scars.
I also don't think anyone has said that people DO go on without scars--of course they do. However, at the same time, life DOES go on. You either move with it or you don't. When I say Move on, I don't mean 'forget about it' or 'get over it', people can't do that. BUT, you can't sit there and feel sorry for yourself and live in that moment for the rest of your life. You have to move on--and in moving on--you can learn to deal with the scars, ease the pain, and learn from it--even teach from it. Doing these things DOES require people to continue with life.
On another note, being a rape victim does not make you an expert on the subject of rape. It means that you are a victim or survivor, not a expert.
I didn't say it made them experts, I said it didn't make them uninformed. They know what it's like to go through the situation. They are very informed on the feelings, the scars, the fear, the hurt, the legal, the medical . . . they aren't ignorant to the situation--or misinformed.
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