[AKA_Monet]

Has anyone actually read "Marriage Connection" a newsletter by "Marriage Partnership" published by ChristianityToday.com?

Some of the articles are extremely helpful in my marriage. Just how to be married. And some of the books they recommend, like those of Gary Chapman, are very good. Others, like "His Needs, Her Needs"--well I don't relate to what the author is saying. I'm not the one who has "desire" issues to keep it simple...

RM-

I wouldn't be so quick to discount an American (westernized) sistah as much as you are ready to. You really are in a tough location to meet quality women, generally... You need to visit locations, other than ATL or DC, to meet the kind of women you desire...





I do think some of what Veronica is saying is accurate. Most of what she said is for the "soundbite" and "political". But girlfriend ain't struggling tryin' to make ends meet with a no-good man. Her man does right by her. Either he or she chose well when the hooked up. But something tells me that homegirl is 'bout to leave her man for some reason... Not because he did anything wrong, she just wants it all to herself--'specially when her kids are grown and outta the house...

Which brings us back to this "Americanized western woman" concept of "independence". Non-westernized women may do more for their husbands because their options are limited, but they also have family support--like mother's helping out with the care of children, etc. Most American western women have lost that kind of support because usually the "grandparents" are ready to play after they retire. If I had kids, although I know my mom and dad would move up where I am and help me if I "begged" them to, I wouldn't do it... 1) My husband would resent me for it. 2) 'Cuz my folks would probably drive me nuts. 3) His folks-specially my MIL would definitely put me in the looney bin...

But in other cultures, that is how they do it still. I respect that. But for some reason our economy and cultural shift no longer supports that...