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Originally posted by PrettySunshine
Yea, but that is a different situation. I would also take care of my husband in that way and would hope that he'd do the same. But I mean when you have two "healthy" people and one just sits around and does nothing all day. I just cannot comprehend that.
Personally, I would not like to have someone waiting on me hand and foot. Help me out a bit but do everything for me...no.
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That's what I meant before about Daddy coming in after work and Mom's having the food on the table AT 6.00 PM. She didn't HAVE to; she wanted to. And MS is the type of disease that *sometimes* symptoms come and go. Consequently, there were times that my father was at home ill and times when he was at home without exacerbations of his illness. He was able bodied, but he didn't go to work at some point. And for some time, it was okay with my mother. Besides, when I was younger, she herself stayed at home with me until I was about 4. And it was still okay. And when he did go to work, Mom still cooked and cleaned. I guess you can say it gave her peace (that is, until the CHANGE, lol!)
You can't comprehend it because that's not the type of love YOU need. It's not the same for everyone. When I said it was a partnership, that is defined by the couple. A give and take. If she wants to give to man completely, she should do so. Now, *I* cannot be 'stuck' at home, nor will *I* have a husband who will be 'stuck' at home because it doesn't work for ME. It doesn't work for a lot of couples; thankfully, for those whom it doesn't work for, they don't have that type of relationship. For those who do enjoy the carer/hunter partnership, they do their own thing and experience 'true love' by their own definition.
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