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Originally posted by PrettySunshine
I came up in the nurturer/100-100 household. So, I guess it is really difficult for me to see things any other way. And they say women look for men who are like thier fathers and I just found that out to be true. One thing about my parents...They took care of each other, even if it meant doing things out of their element. That is apart of what true love is.
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But, PrettySunshine, sometimes 'true love' to
some means doing all you can for your partner. For instance, for my parents, it was my mother taking care of my father 110%. You see, my father has MS and it's difficult for him to do things by himself. She had to work full time, finish her degree(s) and take care of 3 nappy headed children (and then a fourth b/c my 'rents adopted my little cousin) while my father stayed at home. Is that 50/50? Heck naw. Sometimes it was more like 80/20. And my mother had NOOO problem with doing that. And in other instances, my mother cooked and cleaned while all my father, when was fully able, did nothing but go to work and basically come home. It aint for everybody, but it was for THEM.
And then, my dad would do all the cooking and cleaning, the nurturing of the kids when Mom was away and taking care of business. Kinda like a househusband.
Some women might not feel that's okay. Some women might feel that her husband has to be, as the good Dr
said, that it is her role to be carer/nurturer and his role to be hunter/gatherer. But that doesn't mean their love is any less 'true'; it also means that she might thoroughly enjoy 'catering to her man'--whatever that means.
It also means that Dr. Wife needs to stop blanketing roles for women
and get with the program, though. She says some mess sometimes.
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