First, there is NOTHING wrong with the idea of submission within the confines of a Christian marriage. NOTHING! I believe there is a thread on that discussion in which we delved in-dept into that idea and topic.
Found it!
Obey? Submit? What Do You Think?
One type of woman is not necessarily better or worse than the other (submissive vs independant). If one or the other is not your cup of tea, then great, but please be sure to find a significant other that has that same mindset as you. As fine as he/she may be, if you two aren't on the same page concerning something as basic as this, then there should be no surprise to the discord that you will be bound to have.
I am educated and successful careerwise and I don't have a problem cooking for my SO or catering to his needs. But that's me and it works for us. You do what works for you.