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Tell the MOH that if she would like to plan something special for the bride, then you'd be happy to help her out. Then explain you are throwing a local shower for the bride.

End of story. I know your mouth may be agape and you may be thinking, "But she's the MOH!" Well, yes she is, and it is her job to plan a shower. She's not. It is not uncommon for brides to have multiple showers given by family, friends, co-workers and even their attendants. Consider the event you are throwing to be one of these supplementary showers.

The bride's first mistake was appointing an MOH so far away. If the title was that important, she should have had two MOH's-- one local to support her in the wedding planning and one for the honorary title.

That is the beautiful thing about weddings. It is the bride's day, so she really can do whatever she wants.

Don't let the woman in HI get to you and keep on with your plans. This isn't about her; it is about planning a nice event for your friend, the bride. And it is also about planning a local event with local resources and without driving you to tears!

Dry your eyes, sister, and good luck! I hope this advice helps you out.

ETA: I don't know this MOH, but is does seem terribly cost prohibitive to purchase paper goods in the Pacific Islands and ship them to the States... Just wanted to put that in. If the majority (the other maids) are satisfied with the plans, move forward. She's one person and she's really far away. She can't hurt you.