Thanks for the support Monet. I am in no way scared to get married. I embrace the challenge. We've been together 5 years now and been living together for 3 of those 5 years. Though marriage is very different from "shacking up", I believe that you at least get a view of the real person. Do they pay their bills on time? Is that person messy or clean? Can they cook? Those kinds of things are important in a marriage.
More importantly, married or not, people change. I think the key to a successful marriage is to ensure that you change together. People always say that folks change for the worse once they get married, that is not necessarily the case. Sometimes people start to go in different directions, doesn't make them a bad person but they may become incompatable with their spouse. That does make me a little nervous because we've been together since we were 21. The person you are at 21 is not the person you are at 27, but we talk ALOT about our goals, dreams and aspirations and where the other person fits in. So far we are still on the same track and we plan to keep it that way.
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Originally posted by starang21
dang, i'm scared to get married.
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