[amanda6035]

So Iota Theta is 2 years old as of yesterday! We had a sisterhood event last night to prepare for our big easter PR event that we've got going on next week. At the end of the event, we did, in fact have a teddy talk. I managed to somehow, choose my words carefully enough to not point any fingers at her, but I was able to say the things I needed to say in a round about way. Whether or not it had any impact or if she even listened is a different story.

She came in last night complaining about how she had so much homework to do and she hoped the event wouldnt take that long, blah blah blah. I looked at her and said "We ALL have homework to do. I'm going to up late tonight myself."

When we got around to the teddy talk, (which i know, they are 'confidential'...but I'm only talking about me, and I dont have a problem telling y'all) I first apologized to the chapter for me talking about my fiance leaving for deployment. I said something about how I try to not talk about it too much, but that it is tough, and IF I have talked about it so much to the point that I've annoyed the heck out of someone (which I hope I havent, I try to not talk about myself that much) then I apologize. I then went on to say that everybody in the room has different things going on in their lives - nobody's issues are more important than someone else's. I picked on one girl, and used her as an example (but thats cause I talked to her about it before hand, and she knew I was going to and was okay with it) and pointed out to everyone else that the issues in her life were understandable, as everyone else has issues and things going on in their personal lives. I said "We all have work, we all have homework, we all have personal issues going on. We are sisters, please be respectful of each other and what might be going on in that persons life. It's not fair for any of us to be wrapped up so much in our own lives that we cant be respectful of others. Me me me me me is not the way our chapter should run."

I probably said some other stuff along the same lines, but I know I did it in a way without pointing fingers directly at her. I hope that she got the clue though. I dunno. If she didn't, I'll probably rip my hair out before the semester is over with. I'm SO tired. I'm trying my best to be respectful of her circumstances, and I'm trying SO HARD to be a good listener - but DAMN if it dont get tiring after a while...