[nonchalant]

There is so much to respond to in this thread. Due to that fact, I will not quote anyone. People are going to do what they want to do to be happy. What we have to do at this point is the same thing. Life is too short to settle for just anything. I'll elaborate on the statement throughout this post.

For anyone that lives in Atlanta, it is considered a gay mecca. I know I've touched on this in another thread too. I reside in Atlanta. It is a great experience to open one's eyes to the gay lifestyle. Over half of Midtown is gay from people that work, reside, or just hang out there(male and female). To have gay friends is also a great experience. Hang with them. Go out with them. That way you're able to pick up on a gay males dress, lingo, body language, etc. I've seen so much in clubs from drag queens to hardcore men. I've seen men skee-wee and oo-oop and chant and stroll against one another. I've seen men dancing like the dancing girls at the football games challenging each other. There are security guards at these clubs that claim they are straight(and could be) that try to talk to you on a dating level. My thing is they could be working at a straight club, but to each his own. Experiences like these and advice from sincere homosexuals will cut down on some naïve moments. A lot of men that constantly talk bad about gay men just because fool around with men. Men that feel they have something to prove by constantly bringing up dating situations they've had with women and discussing them regularly in front of females that could careless???Gay. Any real man that's comfortable with his sexuality and himself has no reason to bash anyone for being gay nor make excuses for his sex life. Let's live and learn.

Love yourself first before anyone else. Never settle for ish. If something doesn't feel right, don't do it. If something doesn't sound right, don't believe it. That's called instinct. People will only do what you allow them to do. With sex, no one can make you not use a condom. I don't care how long you've been with someone. Until you've been tested together and have seen each other's results, please use condoms. If your partner does not want to go through routine check-ups with you, they must have something to hide. I know I can't be with someone I can't trust. Don't hold on to things you know aren't going to work. Staying making excuses the whole time causes more hurt in the long run. Overall, prevention lies within one's self. In the long run, you can depend on no one but yourself. In the end, you can be mad at no one but you and the person(s) that caused you this pain. Knowing is understanding.

Also, what gets me is people that don't want to admit a lifestyle change. You can't say you're a straight man but you like to sleep with men. That makes you gay and in denial. If you sleep with women too, that makes you bi-sexual. That's just always been funny to me.

Also, it is not accepted to be gay if you are from Jamaica or the Bahamas. I have gay friends from both places that live in the US now, and they have all discussed how bad it's talked about. None of their families know about their lifestyle. Their parents still reside on the islands.