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I hope I don't offend anyone with my comment however, it's my opinion. I think this topic is by far one of the most interesting topics on this board. In my opinion, less blacks are married and/or having successful marriages because we have unrealistic or too high standards for our mates. We expect for him or her to be dang near perfect. For us women, he needs to look like this, make this much money, drive this, live there, have no kids and the list goes on and on. Most of the same apply for black men. I think whites are more excepting of each other. For example, they think realistically and understand that over time their mate's body and appearance may change due to getting older, health or whatever it may be. Black women are more understanding in this area, but black men need to emerge.
I do agree with some of the other comments regarding the role of the black man in society and its affects on marriage. Also, I agree that because of the black man's role, black women have become a lot more self sufficient because we have had to depend on ourselves more which can intimidate some men.
I am in no way saying that anyone should settle for less. It's just my thought that if we become more realistic with our expectations of our mates and marriage, the state of the BLACK MARRIAGE will become more successful!
Personally, I am happily married to a wonderful man. I honestly feel that when I got fed up with being dogged by pretty boys who drove nice cars who didn't give a rats azz about me, that's when I met MY BLESSING. My husband is wonderful and truly a blessing from GOD but, had I not gone through what I went through in past relationships I wouldn't be able to appreciate what I have now.
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