God bless the both of you while you are going through grad school. I remember how things were (I fininshed grad school in 1997) and it wasn't easy. During that time I was working full-time AND I was a single parent. So you can just IMAGINE what it was like. But...I ENDURED (with God's help and guidance). That's the key--to ENDURE. What helped the most was that I had a friend who was going through along with me. We took all of the same classes, worked at the same place, consulted each other on assignments, etc.---it was like we were joined at the hip for 2 years.
I feel that you guys are going to make it. Grad school is relatively easier than undergrad because you just focus on your major the whole time. Things will more than likely seem to get tough, but you guys can do it. Just think you're setting the tone for younger African-American girls (and others). That's another thing that helped me too---the fact that I was setting the prime example for my daughter (who was there to watch me accept my M.A. degree).
Oh what a crowning moment. Your hard work will prove to be well worth it when you both walk down that aisle to recieve your degrees.
GOOD LUCK and I'll be praying for you.