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Originally posted by BlueReign
Because I was raised with both parents, my mission was to NOT be like my mother and be dependent on my husband...so I did not marry to be taken care of. Even though the love was there, love don't pay nobody's bills!
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Back in the day, that is what women thought they should do. Some women today still think that way--a MAN outta buy you this, that and the other... Well, I always said, that if I EVA find a man willing to do ALL that for me and was NOT A PIMP, then I'd be a barefooted, pregnant old lady in a shoe with too many kids and not knowing what to do...
I think it is fairy tale logic to really imagine that anyone will take care of anyone without strings attached...
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Originally posted by BlueReign
So maybe if we single ladies just close the shop, dry season or not, we could find ourselves more "marriage material". I remember my dad telling me the old statement about buying the cow and the milk being free..
Well, then again maybe not. I like to have sex way too much to stop. This is a new day. I think as a whole, men need to change their ways of thinking.
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The other issue is there are not that many brothas out there--sheer population overall. Like isn't it 4:1 sistahs:brothas or more? Then on top of that finding a brotha that is quasi-sane, somewhat attactive, willingly and available and doesn't have any alternative habits or lifestyles? Essentially being HIV-free...