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I don't know...I guess I'm in the small minority of people who was actually raised by both parents, whom actually stayed married until death [did they part].. And quite honestly, for quite some time, I thought my reality was common for black people. Apparently not! I really began to see that the nuclear family was not a reality for many of my peers in high school, college and beyond.
So, a lot of values and the way I see certain things is obviously based on my own experience. Hence, the surprise that somebody would actually say 'marriage is for white people'.
Now that I think about it, the breakdown in the nuclear black family unit happened 400 years ago. Our men were emasculated and taken away from their 'families', and our women were relegated to being the consummate mammy/whore. Do you think that this mindset still filters down through our current generation (if only subconsciously)?
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