Bajan, please let me share with you some words of advice. While I was the person who felt the need to "go the f**k off", I eventually learned that sometimes you do all you can to make things right with that person. If they choose not to, then you continue to live your life right. That's what I had to do with my father.
My mission was to make sure that I lived everday to the best of my ability and to sleep peacfully at night. I tried to work things out, but he was not interested. I am proud to say that after three years of not speaking to me, GOD spoke to him and put it on his heart to apologize to me (this just happend two days ago).
Just know that if you do your part and continue to live right, God will make ALL of your enemies behave!
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Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
This type of situation saddens me. The only thing that we can do is to ensure that we do not pass this type of emotional abuse down to future generations, love your children, hug your cousins, nieces, nephews let them know that they are special and loved. I am sad to hear that your mother has passed on, I can only imagine how you felt having to deal with all those details, while having to deal with such unnecessary negativity. I have found my grandmother loves abusive people. I'm not quite sure why, but the worse you treat her the better she will treat you. You can't tell her anything for her benefit or she will curse you out. She also suffers from slave mentality (seems like you grandma does too). She would tell me when i was little, "you're so pretty EVEN THOUGH you're dark". I'm surprised I'm not more screwed up.
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