This type of situation saddens me. The only thing that we can do is to ensure that we do not pass this type of emotional abuse down to future generations, love your children, hug your cousins, nieces, nephews let them know that they are special and loved. I am sad to hear that your mother has passed on, I can only imagine how you felt having to deal with all those details, while having to deal with such unnecessary negativity. I have found my grandmother loves abusive people. I'm not quite sure why, but the worse you treat her the better she will treat you. You can't tell her anything for her benefit or she will curse you out. She also suffers from slave mentality (seems like you grandma does too). She would tell me when i was little, "you're so pretty EVEN THOUGH you're dark". I'm surprised I'm not more screwed up.
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Originally posted by evaclear04
Bajan_Delta,
Trust that are a lot of people in your situation. I also have a very strained relationship w/ my G-ma. My G-ma is pushing 90 and just doesn't know when to not speak. She has been that way all her life. She is still 'colorstruck' and told me that when I married my husband that she was happy that I had dumped the 'ape' I was dating before( My previous suitor was very dark complected).
During the time when my mom was sick she would say stupid stuff like... my mom was faking and there was nothing really wrong w/ her or that the doctors were lying. When my mother passed...she was more concerned w/ the music they were playing at her wake than the fact that her FIRST DAUGHTER just died. And then being that I was the only one struggling to handle her affairs....when I had to call her to get her info for the SSN Admin. She told me that I was trying to steal her money and identity. After that I have been through w/ her ever since. I know that it looks bad.... but I can't bring myself to even call her.
Just like I would tell my Mom when her own mother would hurt her feeling w/ that crap....Let negative people suffer on their own. Surround yourself w/ positive things and you'll have positive results.
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