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Well, there are a number of issues at hand in picking a mate:
1) Looks: we all like certian looks, and many feaures are confines to race. Me, I like jaw lines and big eyes but I dont' like short or skinny -- which kind of rules out some Asian men.
2)Language: My Spanish is only OK, so I need a guy to speak some English, or all the realtionship can be based on is "looks".
3) SES: I can't date or marry someone who isn't intelligent or doesn't value education (since I have spent my entire life being educated I'd feel pretty worthless if they thought it was useless). That, and I can't deal with someone who thinks I'm "soft" because of where I grew up or "too low" on the social totem pole for them. I want to my partner to see me as their equal, and I want to them to be someone who values similar things as I.
4) Personality/ Relationsip Roles: Expections and how you were brought up to treat women/ men matters. I'm not into men who expect women to stay in the house and not really work. This can rule out a lot of people with differing cultural expectations.
that being said- my boyfriend is mexican ;-) Am I off the hook?
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