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Originally posted by doofy312
I am the guy that goes afterwards and talks to them about why we did it and what they need to gain from it. that is what needs to happen after hazing events. I believe that i would not feel like a real fraternity member if i just waltzed in and became a brother. I felt that I had earned my right to walk into the house as a brother. I believe the only thing that gets out of control is the alcohol. That can be dangerous. Physical and mental things are great for hazing. Degradation is the best. Make sure the pledges feel like shit, so that way they can build themslves back up together. If you feel as if you grew apart from your fraternity then that means the people hazing you didnt give a shit about you. If they did they would have cared to help you out afterwards.
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OK--this is too good not to reply.
If you need to explain what they were supposed to get out of an activity in order to meet your group's "purposes" then there is something wrong with the activity. You don't tell someone "and now you need to bond/trust etc." and it just happens.
Actions speak louder than words. If you want respect, respect other people. If you want to be seen as a leader, then engage in genuine leadership activities that are uplifting.
Additionally, why would you rush someone that was so weak as to allow themselves to be degraded?
More and more often, college students today are busy. They have to work, they often have to take more classes to satisfy their degrees, they have to engage in internships etc. WITH LIMITED TIME, WHY WOULD THE AGREE TO PARTICIPATE IN SOMETHING THAT BRINGS THEM DOWN?
I would take a LONG hard look at your orgs activities and yourself, and really consider the type of "brotherhood" you're building. ETA: Believe it or not, you're taking the easy road here, and that does not build a lifetime of unity.