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OH NO!!!
OK, I'm still in school and remember all too vividly what it's like to be a freshman girl very much interested, in a the charming, handsome, older boy, and I really hope you're "reading" this girl right lifesaver!
While others who've posted have legit perspectives on what she may be wanting, no one has mentioned this side:
I guess a lot of this depends on her "history", but it really sounds to me like any *young* girl who *ASKS* "wanna *try* sex?" is really saying: "if I let you have sex with me, will you like me enough to date me, 'cause I REALLY like you, and maybe this is what you're expecting/used to and maybe this will make me seem exciting/desireable enough for you to stick around......."
Now, it seems to me, that if the girl were the ready & rarin' tigress type she definitely wouldn't have ASKED. Maybe not jumped your bones per se, but at least have "shown you the way home"
THEN the next date, brings up the "US" talk? Dude she really digs your azz! But, also really doesn't want to be a HO (ie. this girl isn't the gratuitus sex type, no matter what she ends up letting herself do to "get" you) and at the same time might not think she'll have a chance with you if she doesn't perform.
As far as her not beating down your door to tell you how much she wants to be the mother of your children, or as you put it "let you know she's interested"..... Dude, if you were a GIRL who initiated the sexual advancement and got "shot down" (you're from Texas right?, things really ARE different as far as that kind of thing works here & conservative south in general), would YOU want to be all over the guy the next time you see him? No way! You wouldn' want him to think you're one of "those girls". Especially if you liked him. Plus, if you really believe she wasn't ready (YOU SAID IT), she was probably playin a little defensive ego recovery.
She wouldn't have even brought up the "US" talk if she didn't want there to be one (of some kind)..... Not with the way she handled the sex situation. But here's the deal. The way you answered her sex question.... Well, my friend THAT's why you got the "US" question. You told her that you'd like to wait until you knew each other better etc..... Well THAT implys a "future" of some sort (however short-lived). Her reply wasn't out of nowhere.
I really hate being a killjoy, I promise. Please, you've got to believe me on this one.... But, if here you've got this girl hooked (thinkin your "so sweet for wanting to take it slow")*HELLO NICE GUY*, then turns the tables and says you just want to try the "friends with benefits, but maybe something might work out" (I call BULLSHIT!!)*HELLO ASSHOLE*. Well, what's a girl to do? You just told her that you expect benefits, if there's even to be a friendly relationship. So, she caved.
Lifesaver, I've really liked ya buddy.... But something ain't right here. If you've not really had the "time" for dating in the past, (did you really not have time for the friends with benefits type of thing you offered to this girl?), and now suddenly when you're abt. to graduate you start looking to date only to end up with "friends with benefits?" I don't get it. It really sounds like you're kinda confused abt. what you're looking for too. I've got plenty of guy friends who are bonafide, sworn-in, dedicated skirt chasers who, once they get near graduation, balk a little and think, well, maybe they missed something by not trying the steady thing while they're still in college. The ones who don't realize this is the case end up with a really confused ex-fling. I have, though known a few to really realize that they want to try something special and end up with great loves out of the deal..... I guess I just can't peg which one you are. Do you know either?
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