[Dionysus]

Originally posted by enigma_AKA
I'm just trying to get what you meant by your post, Dionysus...I didn't want to get the wrong impression by what you wrote, because at first, it seems...wierd.

First, you said:

My question is-what do you define as a stereotypical/typical Black guy? There are many types of people: Black, White, Hispanic/Latino, Asian, educated/non-educated, jock/prep/conscious/fratty, bungalow-dwelling/apartment dwelling/mansion dwelling/shack dweliing, etc, etc...which type?

Stereotypical Black Guy=Fits all or most of the negative black guy stereotypes. I don't like walking stereotypes, and this isn't only with black men. I'm also turned off by white guys who fit most of the negative white guy stereotypes.

As for typical, it is a lot harder to define. But, I know one when I see one. Like you said there are many types of people within one race. How can I put this? I would say that the "typical" black guy is someone who is not well intergrated into mainstream culture. I will give some examples later on.

Then you said:

My question: Is that a race matter? Is having something in common with someone defined as race these days? Maybe it was just them, not specific of race or whatever. Maybe it was you.

No, I don't always think it is a race matter. That was kind of the point of my post. Again, a lot of people say that they would not date interracially because they won't have anything in common. I don't think that's always true. You can date someone within the same race and not have much in common, and you can date someone from another race and have many things in common. I know the former from experience.


My question (and statement): Well, hayle, there you go! Wouldn't these men in particular be wack candidates regardless of race? You didn't like them as much as they liked you--well, that's half of the problem. And then, asking someone as a date for an event doesn't mean you have to like them--it just means you need a date. Or was it because they were Black that you didn't like them in the first place?

Yes, you are right, I would've not bonded with any of those guys regardless of their race.

Growing up in a predominantly white area, and attending predominantly white schools from k to grad school, I do consider myself as someone who is well intergrated into mainstream culture, at least superficially. Those guys were not, IMO.

Our tastes in clothing, MUSIC, movies, and food were completely different. Our hobbies were also quite different.

I would describe all of them as politically liberal, but socially conservative, as many blacks are. I'm middle of the road politically, but I'm quite socially liberal.

For some reason, I don't mind these differences in platonic relationships or friendships, or I would have less black friends. And here on GC, I enjoy reading many posts on the NPHC forums. I've learned a lot of new things. Before GC, I've never heard of people like Zora Neale Hurston. On a less serious note, I didn't have a clue what "bootlegging" meant. I think I only heard of the word five times in my life.

However, when it comes to intimate relationships, those kinds of differences are a concern. But, then again, these differences are pretty superficial. I'm sure if I look deeper I can find something in common. So maybe it is me.

No, this does not mean that I will stop dating black guys. I'm just saying that I once had assumption because I dated someone within the same race, that we would automatically have a lot in common. I found out the hard way that I was wrong.