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Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
Trust me when I say I try to get away from her (an other negative family members) but some how they won't leave me alone...after all I have my pride and there is only so much I can take...I think my grandmother is worse of all because she is so sneaky about it...My grandmother doesn't make me nervous when I'm around her, she makes me angry... I thank God daily that my mother is not like my grandmother, and that our relationship is as strong as it is.
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What strikes me is the "having your pride" in the face of idiodacy. Like, you can be proud but it still won't change how your G-ma treats you or your mother... So, if it is not going to make a difference and you can leave (spelled=run) to another universe, but you cannot hide from your "wonderful family members"
then you need some tactics to deal with them.
Do they know how to be "completely cut off" or could you actually do something like that? Just asking? Because if you choose to go that route, you will have "find that hardcore lump of ice coal" to do it, but you will not have complete tranquility, serenity and resolution... This issue is about "resolution" so you can move on and live a happy life no matter what they say to you...
And obviously, there's a saying, "to whom the god's wish to destroy, they must first make them angry..." So, somehow, your G-ma KNOWS and is very well adept to pushing your "right" buttons to set you off... The key is, you've gotta find a way to not make those buttons work anymore... And guess what? It'll frustrate the hayle outta dem and they'll be pissed off with you...
I know there is a way to deal with those kinna people, you do have options... And it does not include leaving an uncomfortable situation or confrontation... It's more relaxed than that... It's actually rather ice-breakingly funny--like just laughing at most of the chit they say to you on general principle--because in reality, will it make the world stop spinning??? Really?