KAPPAtivating's (albeit a lil old--sorry, I just saw this) echoes the sentiments of some of the Black men, on and off this episode (like my father, who's rule is "If he aint an Omega...then baby, I'm sorry!
And if he aint Black, then...
"). My *ideal* mate is not just someone who looks like my daddy (any 6'11 men out there?), but someone who is a proud, qualified, meaningful MAN. I must admit, there are time when (in a former relationship with a White guy) that I wanted to say "Jeremy. Babe? You just don't get it." It was an incredibly difficult situation to be in. Yes, I did have to explain things time and time again that he didn't understand. How could he? But then, the last guy I dated (who is Black)--we went through the same thing---different subjects, but same thing (misunderstanding/non-relation). A lot of times, I was like "Greg. Babe? You just don't get it"
But don't get it twisted---as far as what he (Jeremy) and other men have done for me
mentally, emotionally, physically, etc is beyond color. Some things are, believe it or not, beyond color. Not everything...but love/being in love is not defined by race, color, creed, nationality, sexual orientation, or ANYTHING else. I'm not that old (turned 21 in December--FINALLY) and haven't been
that super-duper involved in a ton of relationships but I can say that I have had edifying relationships with Black men, with White men, with a German guy, a Greek man, a Vietnamese guy, and a Nepali male. And at the end of the day, I connected with them ALL on a super-conscious level. And STRUGGLED WITH ALL. To different degrees, yes, but it was more, for me, about seeking
love for the sake of
love--about honoring what love is about and beyond the superficial level. And besides, just because he's Black, DOESN'T MEAN THAT AUTOMATICALLY CANCELS OUT THE BULL^&*. And just because he's White, DOESN'T MEAN HE CAN'T RELATE/CONNECT.
I don't think you've seen what a White woman can do for you because you haven't been with a White woman who could do for you, yet. Also, you're not dating an entire race. Have you ever been in love with White? Have you ever been in love with Black? No-you've been in love with Ashley or Michelle or whomever.All persons are a product of their culture/environment BUT my point is, relationships are on an individual basis, not on this huge construct that defines finite standards for who can/what can and who cannot/what cannot work out.
Just a rant...
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Originally posted by KAPPAtivating
I had this discussion with a friend of mine who is an African American female. I must admit that I do get somewhat confused when I see a white man with a black woman. I just wonder what is it that he can do for her mentally. I don't really get concerned with the sexual part of it because any man can adore a woman's body, but I want to adore her mind first. Can this dude be there when she comes home from a hard days work and is stressed out because she is struggling to break the glass ceiling? Can he really identify? I make it my assignment to love every square inch of my black woman (mind and emotions included) . And yes I am equally confused when I see black dudes with white women. No offense, but white women just don't do it for me. They can be physically attractive, but can they suite my needs mentally and emotionally?
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