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Originally posted by KAPPAtivating
I had this discussion with a friend of mine who is an African American female. I must admit that I do get somewhat confused when I see a white man with a black woman. I just wonder what is it that he can do for her mentally. I don't really get concerned with the sexual part of it because any man can adore a woman's body, but I want to adore her mind first. Can this dude be there when she comes home from a hard days work and is stressed out because she is struggling to break the glass ceiling? Can he really identify? I make it my assignment to love every square inch of my black woman (mind and emotions included) . And yes I am equally confused when I see black dudes with white women. No offense, but white women just don't do it for me. They can be physically attractive, but can they suite my needs mentally and emotionally?
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I don't mean to intrude, but...
I think we've all seen couples that have left us scratching our heads saying, "what does she see in him and what does she have that I don't have"?
The poster I have quoted asked whether a white man could identify with a black woman and support her when she comes home stressed out about work and is having troubles. I would venture to say that he would have trouble identifying with this women because he can never truly know the type of hardships this black woman faces everyday. But by the same token, me being white and having a white boyfriend, he sometimes has trouble supporting me and identifying with me and my problems, however trivial they may be, but stress me out nonetheless.
Not every relationship is what it appears to be. Some relationships might be purely physically. So, to use this couple as an example, to say that the white man could never truly support this black women might not even apply because they may not be interested in what each other can do for them intellectually.
Unless we are actually walking in their shoes, we can never truly comprehend the relationship.