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It isn't clear to me whether she initiates any of the contacts now or whether he always initiates contact. I think she should back off. Not answer the emails the same day, not be on IM sometimes, not always be there to answer the phone or take a couple days to not answer the phone.
I did a lot of online dating/meeting people just after my divorce and was suspicious of the men who wanted to meet immediately and the ones who dragged their feet. There is a happy medium in there, but a month and a half is too long if you ask me. I suspect he's married or in another relationship. Or, he kind of likes her but has lied to her about something (like maybe his weight or looks.. sent her a 5 year old picture, lives with his mom still, etc). Or, he's just not that into her but wants to keep her around just in case someone else doesn't.
If he asks her why she is more distant, she can say then "Well, it didn't seem like it was going anywhere so I decided to focus my energy elsewhere". If he doesn't notice or doesn't care, then she should just move on.
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