[AKA_Monet]

Aside from Ohiocentaur's situation, is there any man or woman who has had an unplanned pregnancy and were unmarried?

Until there is someone here other than who I already know who has had an unplanned, unmarried preganancy and decided to either abort, adopt or raise the child, either as a single parent or opted for marriage, then we can have all the opinions we want... But until that's our situation, no one can say what they will or will not do.

There are a few old GC-ers who it has happened to. They could share the situation if they feel up to it. I am not interested in blasting them, but everyone can do a search.

My own situation, I was involved with someone who got another woman pregnant--no one was married... I know she did it for financial reasons and biological clock reasons. He was just a drunk. Watching this event unfold pains me even today and I cannot explain it logically to my husband. I have had to put up defense mechanisms in my relationships to guard against ever being hurt like that again.

But these things happen all the time. Friends, of mine trapped their husbands like that. Hayle, I may have a cousin that just had a classic shotgun wedding... And I have seen guys walk out on the woman leaving her to rear the child alone--and this occurs to teenage women as well as older women at the same rate, married and unmarried.

So either way, no matter what rules get instituted, the fact is biological, that is the way the court sees it. And what is the best interests of the child. I think it is foul that women play these games, but it is equally foul that both did the do and now the guy doesn't want the responsibility...

I just cannot understand why some men can be so heartless to their offspring no matter how they got here... I mean spiritually speaking, it is foul, how can someone have a disconnect when it is thought that the very essence of one's soul is encrypted in the genetic inheritance? That these ill described human "pheremones" if there is such a thing, are transferred from parent to offspring--meaning that it is genetic. So to deny that is universally foul and one ought not be granted the ability to form life into a soul. But who am I? Most folks don't follow my logic. Oh well...