[rhochi2002]

Last night my graduate school organization hosted a Dress for Success program. It was my idea to include a session on makeup. AS many of our presenters said. "in life people are going to judge you by your appearance."
Now that said, there is a difference between being presentable and being "Barbie" doll. (and some times those beautiful woman have a head on their shoulders and they are amazing people). Like Valkie (sp) you really need to shower and comb your hair.
I think that if you try and look your best you'll feel good on the inside also My Chapter wasn't filled with your beautiful members we had all types of women. (I am not one of those naturally beautiful women either), but the sisters in my chapter did make an effort to look nice. We all have bad days (hair or what ever), so don't wear letters those days. And quite frankly not everyone needs to wear alot of make up... some people look great with eyeliner, mascara and lip gloss.
As far as improving relations within the greek community, you need to take the lead. My sorority (and most on my campus) always sent the other chapters a gift (usually some baked good). On year we baked brownies for the fraternities during midterms. This was a double event... we had fun cooking together and some of the sisters interacted with the fraternities as the brownies were delievered.
I can't blame you for wanted to particpate in all that greeklife has to offer. Socials are fun and going out is fun to but it isn't all that greek life has to offer. In KD we have a pace program that was recently introduced, that basically deals with the overall view of what a sisterhood should offer. When I was in school we had a pyrimad where we did a self assetment, and we picked areas that we needed to work on during the year. It is nice to have goals, and something to motivate you. I am sure that most of the sororities have some sort of national program simular to Kappa Delta's.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve your chapter, I think we all want our organizations to the best they can be- but that should be a total goal based on more than appearance. Being the best should ialso nclude your scholastic motivation, your personal goals, and increasing your awareness of the world.