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Originally posted by KDLady23
Wow, I think that is actually horrible. When somebody graduates you don't just get a new big. That is the point of having a family tree, and becoming a big yourself.
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I agree. I'd ticked too if something like that happened to me. The only way adoption was allowed to occur in my chapter was if the big disaffiliated. Graduation did not count. It's completely offensive to disown your big just because they graduated.
Unfortunately, I don't think there's anything you can do about it.
I agree, 33girl, that people are losing the meaning of formal adoption. Formal adoption is when the little essentially disowns their big. This new girl becomes their new big sister. They change their family number and any of their littles switch family numbers. The old big is basically pushed out of the picture. That's why my chapter has a rule that formal adoption can occur only when the big disaffiliates. I formally adopted one of my littles but only after her big disaffiliated. My little had a new family number and I had to get her a new jersey with that number. The littles that she had became my grandlittles and their family numbers switched to mine. It is a big deal because those girls do become a part of your "your family". There's no pseudo-bigs and littles. This is now your real big sister. I think telling someone to get over it is easier said than done.