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Originally posted by From_the_roots
Question:
Are BGLO marriages really that big of a deal in the BGLO world? And for those that marry a non-member, I wonder how many of the spouses eventually pursue membership?
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My husband is a GDI and hates all greeks. And while at Morehouse, back in 1989, he really started the haterade on greeks... Some folks here know why...
He got his little heart broken by one of my sorors, then he had difficulty relating to the ladies of DST and he just started all out giving up on dating any sistahs before he met me... Guess, I changed his mind...
I wanted a huge BGLO wedding with music and all. But, I couldn't help who I fell in love with and it was a non-greek man... And he's a wonderful person and there are qualities I see in him transcendental of that when I have dated men in BGLO's...
I come from greek-love relationships. My parents are phirst-phamily--athough many of their friends are married to a variety of other organizations, too. It was easier to do things for my Sorority without explanation when I dated a man from a BGLO. I have to explain the actions to my GDI husband...
But I think my husband's attitude is changing by the work that he sees me do in the community... It's more than what he's doing. And the dedication is different than what he accustomed to. Something about the way I was brought into my Sorority indicates the reason why I have so much commitment to it and follow thru for it--however, he is not aware of that and it is not important to him--he is just blown away as to why I do some of the things I do for my Sorority...
As far as seriousness in our relationship, it doesn't matter--Just like MightQuinn said in hers. However, my father fails to understand that concept and the fact that my husband has no love for any fraternity...
However, I think my actions as a member of my Sorority is speaking louder than his original misconceptions about BGLO's in general...
But sometimes, I do miss and wish I could do some of the fraternity activities, such as go to the balls or step shows and have fun
with my husband... But he really, really, really feels very uncomfortable in those situations--like a fish out of water and I wouldn't want to place him into what
he perceives as a threatening position...