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Originally posted by Boom_Quack13
Rather than getting "sistah friends," why can't they just get a backbone and straighten those men, themselves.
I wish a non-black woman would come to me asking about how to straighten out her Black man. Just like I don't give out soul food recipes and hair advice for their kids, I sure as heck ain't about to advise them on how to get that man together. If he is such a headache or she can't handle him, she should have left him where he was.
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'Cuz from what I've seen, that is why brothaman be playin' these women--he uses the "poor me"--"I's a po black man suffrin' by da man" crap essentially putting the woman in the position to feel sorry for his dumbass.
Any man that abuses the sympathy from a woman is stupid. I have seen more dumb bruthas do it--most especially toward women of other ethnic groups than other dumb men. But that's because I've mostly been around bruthas. The concept is called "mind fcuking". All men do it. It is to what degree they do it and how far a woman is willing to put up with it. But when the rules are different, due to cultural identity issues, then it is easy for some men to play that game until they are called on it...
Think of OJ busting up into the house cursing out Nicole--like he'd get 2 steps into the house if Nicole was a sistah...
What usually happens is that women from other ethnic groups socially isolate themselves trying so hard to please a Black man--especially a Black man for some reason that they have very few other women to speak to when there are problems in the relationship. And there will always be problems with any relationship. Believe me, I know, I've had them all... Then when there are problems, some of them may be culturally related--such as the hard day at work and the police harrassed you. Some women from other ethnic groups are unable to understand that issue, especially if they have not experienced it, nor have had the cultural exposure to it. So the Black man has to explain it to her in detail which is hard to do because racism and bigotry is psychologically humiliating to a human being. That is its power over another person...
So as with any other person who cannot deal with their problems, the anger and focus gets turned onto the ones they love the most with the greatest weakness... Playing on her emotions and lack of knowledge to reign superior as a man over her. And a woman from another ethnic group who has already socially isolated herself from her family and friends due to her choice to love a man outside of her social identity is probably the weakest link and can be easily attacked.
That's just my opinion from my life experiences. That is the best way I can rationalize what has happened in my life. When I saw my brother say some of the things he said to his wife, I was appalled and sometimes I stepped in and cursed his ass out for pulling that BS on her. It was plain stupid. I have to support my brother, but at the same time, I cannot let another human being be hurt in the manner he was doing to her. It was a domination thing. And from what I can see, many bruhs try to be domineering over women. Call it the misogyny that they have in general...
For practical purposes, men from other ethnic groups may be domineering over women, but it has been my experience that they do it differently. Is it less or more compared to bruhs. No. It is just different.