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Realistically speaking...
The problem ISN'T with women who, out of wedlock, have children who can adequately support them. We know that those who have the PRIVELEGE of using this forum are outside of this consideration---obviously, they have been themselves or are the product of women/men who knew what it took to be a parent--not just a 'baby mama/daddy'. It's with the women who CANNOT.
The cycle of Black women who aren't (and I use that word deliberately) financially, socially or emotionally sound who continue to have babies, is the issue that permeates the Black community. True enough, if the majority of children of this 69% were living in *healthy* situations, then it wouldn't be an issue of morality or otherwise. In fact, it wouldn't even be a discussion. The blame wouldn't be placed on inadequate/non existent birth control, foolish decisions and, as mentioned before, the lauding of teenage pregnancies, to mention a few. While few to no single mothers will say "My baby wasn't a blessing; I wish I had never had him/her", let's be honest here: it's hard enough having a child with TWO parents, let alone ONE.
And for economic, social and psychological reasons, having a two parent home IS the ideal for obvious reasons. Not to say that every two parent home is best--most homes in general aren't
*perfect*. But having a partner (let's speak in average--not extenuating circumstances like abusive, emotionally neglecting, etc)to help in making even the most minute decisions that affects a human being for their well being for the rest of their life is of course, the smart move to make.
Besides, it takes two people to PRODUCE a child. It takes a village to RAISE one. And that village starts with the home.
enigma_AKA
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