I am a sorority alumna who went to a rural university in a Southern state. Only after transferring to a more urban school after my second year, could I "come out". I always wondered if I would have been kicked out of my organization if I'd stayed. I held many high offices and had just been elected VP/Pledge Trainer when I decided to leave. I have avoided members in the sorority at the university where I am now pursuing my Ph.D. and alumni chapters who have contacted me. I am happy to see that most of you are open-minded. I was initiated in 1990. Something tells me that you are not in chapters in the South or in rural areas.
After transferring and coming out, I visited some of my sisters with my girlfriend at the time. A couple of them were full of questions. I heard shortly after that one of them came out. I've heard she's had a hard time of it living in that small town.
Perhaps things are changing within the chapters these days. I wonder how it is possible to find gay/lesbian members/alumni of particular sororities/frats. I suspect that it would be difficult