[33girl]

It's one thing to be close with someone else and have them be your "unofficial" big when your big is gone. It's quite another to, in effect, "divorce" your big and completely remove yourself from that family line.

It would be OK if you had terminated your membership. It would maybe even be OK if you transferred or something and couldn't be involved anymore. But your little gets another big because you've GRADUATED??? That's kinda like me saying "well, my mom's dead, so I'm going to start calling our next door neighbor mom and when people ask me who my mom is I'll point to her." Graduation is a natural part of life and it shouldn't be an excuse for people to change bigs.

The fact that your chapter is allowing this to occur is absolutely inexcusable. And it has nothing to do with "moving on" as an alumna - unless this chapter wants the alums to move so far on that it doesn't see anything wrong with alienating them.