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Originally posted by dzturtlelambsig
Hey all! I just wanted to pose this question for all of the greek family out there..........

I graduated and moved about 300 miles away from my chapter for my job. I'm still in the same state and really only about 2.5 hours away. Well it's about a year later and someone who is supposed to be my BEST friend is in the process of adopting the one "little sister" that I had left to carry on my family tree. Am I right to be hurt about this? I tried to move back to the area of my university/chapter, but I couldn't find a job. I had some extinuating circumstances that disallowed me to get back to my chapter for big sis reveal and initiation. I don't know if other sororities do this. I don't think I'm a terrible big sister........ I just want to get input from people who are not in my chapter. Unfortunately, sisters are taking sides.... and I don't want that.

This situation is ruining my friendship, my family tree, and alienating me from the chapter that I LOVE! Is this right?

Thanks!

Ok...You most probably will not like my response...

You are graduated. You have not an active collegiate member anymore...you are an alumna member. You can still have a relationship with your Little but remember the nature of the relationship's daily activities will change. You are an alumna now. If you little is still an active collegiate chapter member, her focus is chapter based. Your focus should be outward looking toward your alumna chapter.

Thank about it that way.