[suntzu1963]

Frat, discussions like this will eventually become inconsequential as your time as a member of IOTA grows (at least I hope so). The only things that should matter are:

▪ Are we upholding the values and tenets of IOTA?

▪ Are the men of IOTA on our campus/in our community making an positive impact/difference on our campus/in our community?

▪ Do the men of IOTA do the best we can to bring about a positive impact?

▪ Do the men of IOTA do enough to make an impact?

▪ Are WE proud of what we do?

▪ Would other brothers be proud of what we do?

I think if you keep these questions at the forefront of your thoughts in discussions about "who runs the yard", your best answer will not be the one you say, but will be the one(s) you simply point to. Let you actions speak louder than your words.

Furthermore, if this person is truly a buddy/friend of yours....do not let discussions of this sort become trouble within your relationship. It's not worth losing a true friend (if this person is one) over.

Lastly, my above comments are the same regardless of the different councils involved. Other organizations on your campus may have more members, throw more events, and be the topic of conversations more than your chapter.....but does that define your chapter/our organization? Look inside yourself and look at what you've learned about IOTA and you'll find the answer.