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Originally posted by dzrose93
AchtungBaby would have to clarify this one for me, but I'm pretty sure, based on her previous posts, that she DID ask for them back last year.
It's hard for me to look at it from the borrower's perspective because, to me, she's the root of the problem. AchtungBaby wouldn't have to seek her out if she'd been responsible enough to return the dresses in a timely manner.
When I borrow something, I don't wait for the owner to ask me for the item back. I view it as my responsibility to return the item promptly. (And, in the cases of clothing, I would make sure that they were cleaned before their return.) Quite honestly, if someone had to ask for something back from me, I would be embarrassed.
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I agree & I am the same way.... =but= not everyone is like that.
I've had a couple of friends borrow things that forget.. sometimes work gets crazy, sometimes life comes up and returning a sweater or formal dress isn't the first thing on their "to-do" list. It doesn't hurt to give them a gentle reminder that they still have something that is yours.
Based on the previous posts, it sounded like she didn't try to get the dresses back until *AFTER* they had a fall out (which occured several months after the fraternity formal).
I think the person who lends their stuff also has some kind of responsibility in getting their stuff back if the person they lent their things to hasn't returned it in a reasonable amount of time. In the case of the dresses, it only takes a couple of days to get things dry cleaned, so if she didn't return them after a week or two, you might want to give a gentle reminder. A reminder "several months" later after there is a big fight seems kind of tardy. Plus, if she had been reminded a couple of weeks after she borrowed them, they were probably still friends then, and she probably wouldn't have ignored her.