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Originally posted by adpiucf
You can tell her that you extended her courtesies when she was a bride, and if she won't extend you the same, out of fairness and fair play, that you are excusing yourself from your MOH duties and will sit with the family at the ceremony rather than stand up next to her during her vows.
You're still supporting her and sharing in her happy day, but if she won't make the same concessions that you were required to make in the same situation for her, then you will not participate as originally planned.
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See Leslie, this is what I'm concerned about. None of us know you or your sister. We're all just random, nameless, faceless folks w/opinions. I would be very hesitant to disrupt my relationship w/my sister off of the advice of someone who doesn't even know me (assuming that you don't know adpiucf). It may seem like a big deal to you now, but in retrospect are you really going to be pleased if you create bad blood w/your sister over a bride's maid dress? Are you really going to be happy if everytime either of you remembers this day, there are ill feelings there b/c you chose to sit out?
Also consider that given that this is her wedding, she's the one who will have to reflect on the event, look at the pics, and will really care about what was worn. I mean you probably won't care anything about your bride's maid dress a year from now, but she will. She'll care about everytime that she looks at her wedding pictures. Maybe for that reason alone you should work hard to come to a happy medium mw/her. I'm not saying give in totally, just don't be as hard nosed as some people are telling you to be.