[honeychile]

Originally posted by 33girl
I can understand your way of thinking, and I sympathize if you've gotten nasty calls, but I think we have to be very careful that we don't get into a pattern of "some are more equal than others." Most legacy policies I've read say a legacy is a daughter, sister, granddaughter of a member. It doesn't say a member who is in an alum chapter or a member who sent cookies to the collegians or a member who donated beaucoup bucks. It says a member, period.

Not everyone has time to be involved, and many people espouse the theory of not wanting to do things halfway - i.e. they don't want to be an alum who is nominally in an alum chapter and can't make most of the events. I'm sure my little would be great in an alum chapter, and there's a collegiate chapter in her town, but she's also working 60+ hours a week and in a singing group besides. She's not going to tell the collegians to call her when they need something - mainly because she might not be there!

If an alum, no matter what her status as involvement goes, has filled out the proper forms and done what they can to make sure the chapter knows about her daughter/sister etc rushing, the same level of courtesy should be applied across the board. They may not be doing much as alums, but they may also be the person who as a collegian personally got 20 women to join and saved her chapter's charter.

I understand your post, but I'll go back to the New Member who didn't know that her mother was an ADPi until she herself pledged ("new membered"???). That's what WLFEO and I believe, Zillini were talking about. That's not a real legacy in the truest sense of the word - that's a pleasant coincidence!

ETA: Even if the mother in this scenario had brought in 20 new members on her own and saved the chapter, the daughter should have been aware of it, in some manner!