[kdonline]

Jocelyn, I think you're asking a question whose answer can go a couple ways:

1) with just regular alumnae meetings
2) with some sort of chapter advisory alumnae group

I know when it comes to chapter advising, the alumnae are often verified.

But when it comes to regular alumnae meetings, I think a few slip through the cracks.

The thing is, with most of the alumnae meetings I've gone to, nothing "ritual" is ever discussed. So, there's no reason to challenge anyone who comes to the meetings.

But sometimes, older ladies bring their non-KD daughters (who drive them) or other women might bring a friend who is visiting in town. A regular alumnae meeting is usually non-ritual, so there's nothing secret.

Yes, mailings only go to members. But sometimes, others hear about it. I remember one time in Miami, a woman showed up to a meeting, "Oh, I wasn't in your sorority, but I always wanted to be.." Maybe she was looking to be AI'd, but I never heard anything more about her...

In fact, some groups LIKE having non-members attend their functions. It's "more support" - like with fundraisers.

Now, on the other hand, with my KD Yahoogroup, we've started to verify members through HQ's website. We don't discuss anything ritual in the group, but we talk about issues among chapters/alumnae...sometimes personal. we expect the trust to be mutual.

HTH!